Marital (Physical) Intimacy

Alrighty!
So today's class was about marital intimacy. To open up the class we talked about how married people are the ones that report the most satisfaction out of their sexual lives. Which actually made a lot of since as we continued talking through out the class. We then talked about the differences between males and females in their responses. It was discussed that men usually are aroused much quicker than women. Men reach orgasm much faster and often are already coming out of the high point before many women even fully reach orgasm. The comment was made that guys are like a microwave and women are like an oven (or a crock-pot).
   We then talked about some of the challenges that couples face and then some of the opportunities that come from physical intimacy. Challenges may include:
- Time
     This can include what I talked about above, or it can be the actual lack of time to be intimate.
- Critical of each other
     The issue  of men being done quickly came up again. Women can feel like he doesn't really care or want  to be with her. It was also said that men want to be physically intimate more often which makes the woman think that he is a pig using her for her body. Both of which are untrue and can be explained.
- Hurt
     Very similar to being Critical and thus hurting your spouses feelings.
-Tired
      This can cause the previous two points.
And all of these can cause an avoidance of intimacy at all and thus create a void in the marriage. Marital Intimacy is very important for a marriage. It creates a bond between husband and wife. It brings your spouse and you closer together.

Which brings us to the opportunities that come with physical intimacy.
- Learning to work together
- Learn consideration of your spouse and their needs
- Become at least as concerned as they are about themselves.
- Feel Loved and Supported

There is just one more thing that i want to touch on to wrap this up. I think it is really important to understand. We talked about how being physically intimate with multiple people can really mess up your ability to trust people and to be able to get close to people. Even holding hands and kissing passionately with multiple people can do this. I think you stop trusting people and getting close because when you are physical with a person you get attached to them, and then when you or they move on to another person so easily it hurts. It gives up your self worth. You are not getting the commitment and your intimate needs met. And I meant Intimate as, yes physically, but also emotional and getting the attention and respect all human beings need.

I think that is all for this post. Thanks for reading! Please ask questions!